We are leaving the Pentagoet. There has been a change in plans, Sarah will be taking a flight out of Portland to NYC so she can have a few days to herself. Ot has been a stressful summer for her as it has and will be on all the sisters. Bill and I will continue down the coast.
We relax a bit on the porch and off we will be going.
A photo below of the place that makes fresh the most awesome cakes, cookings, muffins and buns in the morning. I bring one to Sarah every morning to start her day.
Bill has been doing great, no dizziness, no back pain. He has been up early and for the most part running around every day. He has had his moment of where he ordered too much wine or scotch which has annoyed and upset Sarah but overall he has been fine. Bill has at times shown a petulant, defiant side of himself when someone tries toe curb his alcohol content. He does have some disorientation that increases with drinking but again for the most part he is fine. The only issue is with his unwillingness at times to control his consumption of alcohol.
Sarah started out having a difficult time. The stress of trying to take care of dad and keep him healthy and not drinking so much has worn on her. She has gotten angry at dad for acting defiant towards her trying to get him to drink less. Dad likes $25 a glass scotch that when mentioned to him he "seems" act oblivious to the cost. Hence he has been named, Oblivious Bill. However, she seems to have found her way. We spent a lot of time dialoging the stresses of caregiving and what what in her control and what needed to be let go. She has become more forceful with dad to make sure he grooms himself and keeps his drinking to a reasonable amount.
The Handleizer ankle problems seem to gone the way they came. I woke up one morning and was fine again. Due to Sarah Difficulties and stress, I have felt the effect as well. This was not the normal Maine trip we take every year. It is possible I was naive to think it would be easy. I try to balance giving advice with allowing Sarah to make her own mistakes thereby figuring out caregiving on her own but it is difficult to witness someone you love stressed. I like to believe I have done my best to help with the caregiving with dad. I took her shopping for some pretty clothes in Castine at Sara Sara's and then in Bar Harbor at Macey's when I noticed her particularly down/stressed. Other than that, my emotional and physical health has been good.
Sarah and I had a discussion. I mentioned if she would like to fly home to be by herself in her home for a few days without us around. I would drive around and spend an extra 4 days on the coast with dad and she would fly home from Portland on Jet Blue. She loved the idea once we talked about that a caregiver and/or wife/husband should not feel guilty if the person finds she/he is in need of alone time. It is important to emotionally recharge. On thursday, we leave the Pentagoet and take Sarah down to Portland Maine for an evening flight to NYC. I secured a hotel room need the airport so she could relax a few hours before her flight. On the way down, we will spot in one of the villages and have a nice lunch.
We relax a bit on the porch and off we will be going.
A photo below of the place that makes fresh the most awesome cakes, cookings, muffins and buns in the morning. I bring one to Sarah every morning to start her day.
Bill has been doing great, no dizziness, no back pain. He has been up early and for the most part running around every day. He has had his moment of where he ordered too much wine or scotch which has annoyed and upset Sarah but overall he has been fine. Bill has at times shown a petulant, defiant side of himself when someone tries toe curb his alcohol content. He does have some disorientation that increases with drinking but again for the most part he is fine. The only issue is with his unwillingness at times to control his consumption of alcohol.
Sarah started out having a difficult time. The stress of trying to take care of dad and keep him healthy and not drinking so much has worn on her. She has gotten angry at dad for acting defiant towards her trying to get him to drink less. Dad likes $25 a glass scotch that when mentioned to him he "seems" act oblivious to the cost. Hence he has been named, Oblivious Bill. However, she seems to have found her way. We spent a lot of time dialoging the stresses of caregiving and what what in her control and what needed to be let go. She has become more forceful with dad to make sure he grooms himself and keeps his drinking to a reasonable amount.
The Handleizer ankle problems seem to gone the way they came. I woke up one morning and was fine again. Due to Sarah Difficulties and stress, I have felt the effect as well. This was not the normal Maine trip we take every year. It is possible I was naive to think it would be easy. I try to balance giving advice with allowing Sarah to make her own mistakes thereby figuring out caregiving on her own but it is difficult to witness someone you love stressed. I like to believe I have done my best to help with the caregiving with dad. I took her shopping for some pretty clothes in Castine at Sara Sara's and then in Bar Harbor at Macey's when I noticed her particularly down/stressed. Other than that, my emotional and physical health has been good.
Sarah and I had a discussion. I mentioned if she would like to fly home to be by herself in her home for a few days without us around. I would drive around and spend an extra 4 days on the coast with dad and she would fly home from Portland on Jet Blue. She loved the idea once we talked about that a caregiver and/or wife/husband should not feel guilty if the person finds she/he is in need of alone time. It is important to emotionally recharge. On thursday, we leave the Pentagoet and take Sarah down to Portland Maine for an evening flight to NYC. I secured a hotel room need the airport so she could relax a few hours before her flight. On the way down, we will spot in one of the villages and have a nice lunch.
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